You know you're a military girlfriend when "you're a boot" becomes your best insult and comeback and being quizzed on rank and rank insignia has become regualr dinner conversation. Although we are all so proud of our men, there is more to dating a marine than meets the eye.
1. Distance and Time - It's difficult not seeing your boyfriend often, but it becomes just another part of your relationship. I am lucky enough to see my boyfriend almost every weekend, but for those who are long distance, visits include a lot of leave days and time off work.
2.. Use and Abuse - Being a girlfriend means you do not reap the full benefits of being a dependant. No health insurance, dental insurance, or rent-free housing - but that's ok. If we did get those additions every marine would have girls chasing after them, but just because we don't get those perks does not mean there are none. Let your boyfriend treat you to some discounts at your everyday stores. Express, Nike, Apple, Fandango...even Taco Bell...all offer military discounts for you and your man!
3. Barrack's Culture - When you first introduce your marine to your family, send them a quick reminder about their language and (politically incorrect) jokes. Living in a giant "dorm" with your brothers creates some pretty bad habits. I can't complain about them because I know where they come from - a place where there are no filters - but a quick reminder before heading out into civilization again never hurt anyone.
4. The "Wive's Club" - If you've ever been around a group of military wives, you'll know exactly what I am referring to. They all share the same stories about their husbands and kids, and reminisce about their last ball together. They look at the girlfriends like they are either looking for benefits (see #7) or they will be gone soon.
5. Breaking the Bank - Being in a relatinship with a marine is not cheap. Hotel rooms, gas money, plane tickets, dresses for the balls - it all costs money. Being "just the girlfriend" means all of the expenses, but none of the benefits of being a dependant.
6. Friends Are More Like Brothers - Meeting your man's friends for the first time is scary. Meeting your marine's friends for the first time is petrefying - these men aren't just friends, they are brothers. They sleep, eat and train together everyday. Don't be scared though! Jut relax and treat them like family too - they live with mostly guys (so they'll appreciate a little bit of estrogen every once in a while)! And if all hopes are lost, bring them food they can't get on base and you'll be their best friend soon!
7. Fear of Being a Dependa - No matter what you say, not everyone is going to believe you are in this relationship for the right reasons. Ignore all talk about using your man for benefits and have faith in your own relationship!